Could you be a highly sensitive person? A highly sensitive person is someone who can get overwhelmed by various stimuli such as noise, smells, or clutter that would not bother most people.
I have two kids, and sometimes they are both crying and screaming at the same time. Their screams cause my neck, shoulders, and arms to get stiff, and I feel tingling or pins all over my arms. This sounds like a heart attack, and I am going to the doctor to have it checked, but a quick search showed that this might be due to high sensitivity to noises or screams. And that’s when I learned about Highly Sensitive People aka HSP.
I found this book at Scribd.com (my current employer). I am still reading but I highly recommend it if you feel overwhelmed by children or especially when they are misbehaving.
So far I have learned that there are many signs of HSPs, and 1 in 5 people are HSPs. If you feel overwhelmed, anxious, or uneasy around certain stimuli, then those might be what you are sensitive to. For example, in addition to noise, I absolutely hate smells, both good and bad, and try to keep our home at a neutral smell. Food and cooking smells are good only for a few minutes before I have to step out or open windows.
Also, what is strange is that I cannot deal with loud screams, but I am absolutely comfortable with loud music.
While I am halfway through the book, just knowing that HSP is a thing and that there are some strategies you can use to deal with it is awesome.